I'm just a Mother??? Excuse me!

Most of us would think that a homemaker got lots of time on her hand... well, think again... being a stay-at-home mom means you're on call 24/7... it also means you can't afford to get sick or who else can take your place... it also means you don't get any time off (vacation/sick/maternity leave) even though the kids are driving you crazy... definitely its a full time job like any other jobs out there... it also means you are not compensated financially unlike other jobs out there! It takes a lot of dedication... a lot of patience... a lot of sacrifice... a lot of intervention... and a lot of love and hugs and kisses to keep this job!

The payback? A loving and healthy family! Defintely a job worth having!!!

Happy Mother's Day to all,
especially to the greatest moms in the world,
my mama and mother in law!

I got this from a friend and I thought I'd share it with all the "super moms" out there!


A few months ago, when I was picking up the children at school, another mother I knew well rushed up to me. Emily was fuming with indignation. "Do you know what you and I are?" she demanded. Before I could answer and I didn't really have one handy ... she blurted out the reason for her question.

It seemed she had just returned from renewing her driver's license at the County Clerk's office. Asked by the woman recorder to state her occupation, Emily had hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself.

"What I mean is," explained the recorder, "do you have a job, or are you just a...?" "Of course I have a job," snapped Emily. "I'm a mother". "We don't list 'mother' as an occupation...'housewife' covers it," said the recorder emphatically.

I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself in the same situation, this time at our own Town Hall. The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised, efficient, and possessed of a high-sounding title like "Official Interrogator" or "Town Registrar."

"What is your occupation?" she probed. What made me say it, I do not know. The words simply popped out. "I am a Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations."

The clerk paused, ballpoint pen frozen in midair, and looked up as though she had not heard right. I repeated the title slowly, emphasizing the most significant words. Then I stared with wonder as my pronouncement was written in bold, black ink on the official questionnaire.

"Might I ask," said the clerk with new interest, "just what you do in your field?" Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice, I heard myself reply, "I have a continuing program of research (what mother doesn't) in the laboratory and in the field (normally I would have said indoors and out). I'm working for my Masters (the whole darned family) and already have four credits (all daughters)! Of course, the job is one of the most demanding in the humanities (any mother care to disagree)? And I often work 14 hours a day (24 is more like it). But the job is more challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers and the rewards are more of a satisfaction rather than just money."

There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk's voice as she completed the form, stood up, and personally ushered me to the door.

As I drove into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous new career, I was greeted by my lab assistants -- ages 13, 7, and 3. Upstairs I could hear our new experimental model (6 months) in the child-development program, testing out a new vocal pattern. I felt triumphant! I had scored a beat in bureaucracy!

And I had gone on the official records as someone more distinguished and indispensable to mankind than 'just another mother'.

Motherhood... What a glorious career. Especially when there's a title on the door.


Vanessa said...

Very well said, Jo! We mothers may not be so respected at all times but at least we get a lot of love, hugs & kisses (on a daily basis) & a whole day to be celebrated & appreciated!!! Happy Mother's day to you!!!

denden said...

hi Jo, first of all i'd like to greet you a very happy mother's day. hope you get pampered and have fun today.

I do have the greatest admiration for stay-at-home mum and i hope that when that point in my life comes i'd be given the chance to stay at home with my kids rather than return to work immediately after maternity leave.

techguy said...

happy mother's day, musta yong weekend mo

Matapoor said...

happy mama's day, Jo!!!

JO said...

Thanks guys!

Junnie said...

if you get paid for every hug and kiss from your lovely kids, you're a millionaire, Jo!

Happy Mother's Day!

JO said...

on every occasion - birthdays, valentines, christmas, anniversaries and mother's day... my hubby's only gift to me is always "pagmamahal"! so yes, I am a millionaire in terms of love, hugs and kisses!