Decisions

Junnie asked this in his blog: "What's the hardest choice you recently made?"

Thank God I don't have to make any such decision right now. But let me share LV's present situation. LV's brother had been diagnosed with Cryptococcal Meningitis early this year and is in a terminal stage right now.

"Cryptococcal meningitis is a brain infection caused by a fungus called cryptococcus neoformans, which is found mainly in dirt and bird droppings."

His brother is in his early 30s with a wife and 2 kids (ages 11 and 6). To date, medical bills have reached approximately PHP1.5M (roughly CDN$ 34,000+ or USD$ 27,000+) and they are financially in debt.

The doctor presented them with this situation: to continue medication (which they can no longer afford) or to let him go peacefully. To my understanding, even if they continue the medication, it will not "cure" him, it will only prolong his life. As of today, he can no longer communicate with his love ones.

I remember engaging in a debate back in college about euthanasia. I am pro-life. But in situation such as this, is it practical to continue the medication even if its a financial burden already with no hope of any recovery? or should we continue fighting and hope that a miracle can happen? what about the future of his children? how can they get proper education if there's no money left? is it selfish to think of the future of the surviving spouse and children rather than the sick?

To me, if I am in a terminal illness and a financial burden, I would readily accept being let go. It's no use leaving my love ones in debt.

But I wouldn't know what to do if I were in LV's situation. It's a much harder decision to make. You are putting his life in your hands. What would you do? How would you deal with this situation?

I think it's important for everyone (irregardless of age) to have a signed Power of Attorney for Personal Care so that in situation such as this, with instructions and wishes in writing, we can relieve family members from having to make difficult decisions at a time of great stress.

My prayers goes to the family of LV. I know its a painful and hard decision. Please take time out to pray for LV and his family.

7 comments:

Denny said...

How sad.... and it all boils down to money... I wish them well...

TEACHER SOL said...

I wish the well too...

Hey! Your blog layout is so relaxing to the eyes. Thanx fo dropping by my blog. Hope that won't be your last visit. Feel free to share your thoughts with us regarding the ideas I present in mybentries. Your always welcome to my "cyberclassroom" *wink*

JO said...

Hi Denny, yes it all boils down to money. This is a disease for the rich people.

Hi Sol, thanks for dropping by too! Hope to see more of you here.

darlene said...

Letting go or holding on - such a very tough decision to make.

Like you, i was once part of a debate team about euthanasia when i was in college. I was on the pro-life. But we are all idealistic then, theoretical is not the reality.

I also wouldn't know personally if I am in LV's situation.

Sassafras said...

Is your friend in the Philippines? A friend of mine died from a kind of meningytis as well... like your friend, she was in her early 30's, had 4 boys (oldest aged 10). I don't know if it's the same kind of meningytis, but it sounds the same---it attacked different organs in her body. Then she fell into a coma, woke up paralyzed---could move her eyes. She had good and bad days, sometimes she was responsive and sometimes not. For the most part, her family did not keep her in the hospital, but they hired a nurse instead and kept her home. She lingered for nearly two years before she passed away. Prayers ang naging lakas ng buong pamilya the whole time. Mahirap talaga ang karamdamang iyon...up to the end, umaasa pa rin ang pamilya at kaming mga kaibigan na sana ma-reverse ang kundisyon niya kasi lumalaban naman eh, but in the end she died in her sleep.

JO said...

Hi Darlene, I hope and pray that I won't be in this kind of situation.

Hi Sassafras, yes, my friend's family are all in the Philippines, though LV lives in Canada now. sorry to hear about your friend. searching thru the web, there's no cure for this, unless it was detected very early on.

JO said...

LV's brother died last weekend. I don't have the details yet.

May his soul rest in peace!