Do you want a big family?

I only have 2 kids and I am already "complaining" how much work it is... don't get me wrong, I love my kids and I love being a mother. I love being pregnant, the feeling of a baby growing inside me, the excuse for eating without worrying about getting fat and breastfeeding... But its not an easy job and I am on-call 24/7.

I'm really glad that I had both my kids back home. I was telling hubby that if we migrated before my daughter was conceived, I may not have her anymore. Its just hard to raise kids here, with no help around, no family member to assists and daycare are very expensive. I know that 2 kids is too few. My mama have 9 brothers and sisters and my papa have 5. I have 4 siblings and hubby have 3. But at least (I hope and pray) I can 'guarantee' my kids with a good education and a good life.

Imagine my shock when I read about a couple who have 16 children and still wants more... "Little Rock, Arkansas (AP) -- Michelle Duggar just delivered her 16th child, and she's already thinking about doing it again... Michelle Duggar, 39, had her first child at age 21, four years after the couple married. Their children include two sets of twins, and each child has a name beginning with the letter "J": Joshua, 17; John David, 15; Janna, 15; Jill, 14; Jessa, 12; Jinger, 11; Joseph, 10; Josiah, 9; Joy-Anna, 8; Jeremiah, 6; Jedidiah, 6; Jason, 5; James, 4; Justin, 2; Jackson Levi, 1; and now Johannah."

12 comments:

evi said...

I can relate to this. My hubby is begging to have another one but I am very hesitant with the kind of arrangement here. It took me a year and half to get back to work because I didn't know how I can deal leaving my son with somebody else. Altho' I have relatives around, they also need someone to care after their children. When I finally decided to work, I left my son with my grandparents. But now that he's going to school, I had to hire a babysitter because my grandparents can't pick him up from school. sigh.

Junnie said...

the more the merrier...pero siguro not during these trying times. Pero kung kaya ba e, e di ok...

denden said...

i'm not even married yet but if asked if i'd want a family i always say "if money's not an object i'd love to have four kids" but as kuya junnie said, times are hard so i guess i'll settle for two.

you're lucky to have a boy and a girl. :)

JO said...

Hi Evi, you're still lucky you have relatives that can still look after your kids. Me, I have to rely on friends and a stranger (a lola) to care for my kids.

Hi Junnie, if we can only afford it financially, of course, i wanted more.

Hi Denden, i always wanted 4 kids too... but with our present situation, 2 is enough! am so lucky to have a boy and a girl.

~Ana P. S.~ said...

Ah, two kids ang sa iyo, ang sa akin isa pa lang, pero I am having a hard time din. You can't really trust others to take care of your children kasi baka anong mangyari, kaya, ako, until now pa na, andito sa bahay lang muna with our daughter. No help nga dito, very expensive kumuha ng maka give you a hand sa mga bata. Here, almost everything is a "do it yourself" na.

atoy said...

kung hindi mahirap ang panahon masarap at masaya siguro ang malaking pamilya. pwedeng isang basketball team o kaya pang fashion show.

JO said...

Hi Ana, yup yup yup. lalo na when you hear news about babysitter molesting the kids... or babysitter's bf or brother or relative abusing the kids. its so scary!

Hi Atoy, wawa naman si misis kung basketball team ang gusto mo... hehehe... masarap ang magbuntis pero mahirap manganak at magpalaki ng anak.

Bless said...

I have a co worker in Pinas..they have 18 children...not including 4 miscarriages. She's like a mother to me. She told me she don't have any regrets raising all her kids. I admire her for being a good mother and a strong one. As in di mo rin mahalata na 18 anak nya lahat.

Kung ako i'll be more blessed kung makaisa man lang. =)

Lynn said...

Jo, I can totally relate to what you are saying here. I just have one kiddo at the moment but it feels like I'm raising an enormous pig farm, like I'm feeling totally rundown everyday. It's energy-draining, I can't figure out how my mother raised 7 of us! Despite the lack of battery, I still do want to have one. Always has been our plan. As I keep on saying to my other friends, family planting ang kadalasan sa atin dahil maraming makakatulong sa bahay kahit papaano, while being abroad, unless you can afford a help, you are on your own, multitasking, multifunctioning 24/7... bon courage to us!

JO said...

Hi Bless, enjoy your time with your husband for now. when the time comes i'm sure you will both be bless with baby/ies.

Hi Lynn, if you want 1 more, i suggest you do it now. its better to have them grow up together, so if you opted to stay home for the kids, one time na lang. hindi yun malaki na yung 1 tapos maguumpisa ka ulit sa 1 pa. just a suggestion lang naman.

darlene said...

I have three boys, but got pregnant once twice (because I have twins). How I wish to have another set of twins. Hopefully girls this time! Really!

We are all eight in the family. As they say, the more the merrier. It has its pros and cons. Whatever it is, I want more. hahaha!

JO said...

hi darlene, gusto ko din ng twins, kaya lang wala sa lahi namin eh... masarap may girl, sundan mo na.