"Mommy, I hate you!"

I guess all mothers have heard this phrase at least once in their lifetime. And as children, we have said this to our own mother at least once in our lifetime too. I know I have.

When my son doesn't get what he wants, he would always say "Mommy, I hate you!"

Yes, it pains me to hear these words. But rather than letting him get away with his misbehavior, I would rather make sure that it doesn't happen again, even though he hates me for it.

As Frank Barone (played by Peter Boyle) of the hit TV series' Everybody Loves Raymond said:

"If your kids like you, you failed as a parent."

Do you agree? I do.

32 comments:

MrsPartyGirl said...

I do, too.

They may tell us they hate us now, but I'm sure they are going to thank us later for being the party poopers that we are. :)

Raquel said...

Yes I agree!!! I guess the first word my daughter will learn learnsis "NO".

You know, I kept on saying no. Maybe, later she will say no and I hate you.

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evi said...

that line rings true for me. hahaha...

oh jo! not just once but everytime i scold him. my husband is very lenient and i'm the disciplinarian. so, i'm always the "bad guy".

JO said...

Hi Meeya,
I hope so too!

Hi Raquel,
Don't say "no"... just say "not this time."

Hi Evi,
Same here... the disciplinarian, hence the bad parent. haaaay...

Cynchie said...

hi jo!

i don;t have kids yet. but i used to hate my mom being such a disciplinarian. now i can't thank her enough for it...! whew!

ethel said...

Thats normal for the kids,. Siguro pag magka bebe na rin ako babalik din yong sinasabi ko nun sa mader ko na "i hate you" :)
happy weekend senyo jan Jo.. kisses sa mga kiddos!
God Bless...

bugsybee said...

Jo, we never dared say that in front of them. While my mom was never a disciplinarian (she was very young so she was just like "one of us"), my dad was super-strict (talk about opposites!) so that effectively zipped up our mouths. Of course, we resented "martial law" at home but when we were older and had lives of our own, we appreciated the discipline.

JO said...

Hi Cynchie,
That is all I can hope for, that my kids will appreciate my discipline when they are a bit older... Welcome to my blog!

Hi Ethel,
My mama always told me that "gagawin din ng anak mo sa iyo ang ginagawa mo sa akin"...

Hi Bugsy,
You are still a good kid, not saying it in front of your parents.

duke said...

Hate is a big word.
I'm sure your little boy does not mean it in THAT way.

Parenting seems to be such a complex thing!

Ann said...

So far, I didn't hear that words to my kids yet.

But one time my youngest (6 yr old) got angry and after a while he gave me a piece of paper then walked away. When I read what was written there : "Mama, I don't love you anymore." I called him back but he was terribly crying, so I said I'm sorry...ako pa yung sumuko..hay....

ANALYSE said...

i guess i won't be an exception to that, disciplinarian that i am! and when that time comes, i'll just think, 'at least di nag iisa si jo' hehe.

JO said...

Hi Duke,
I know. And its for his own good.

Hi Ann,
Lucky you! My son sometimes would also say "Mommy, I don't love you anymore."

Hi Ana,
Yes, I guess majority of us will hear this at least once.

The Doctor said...

My wife and I had this converstaion with our first child. She feared our children will hate her. Now after 3.5 years, they dont listen to her...

toni said...

I remember being aruond 9 years old. My Mom didn't want me to eat chocolates because I had just come from the dentist. I said to myself, "I hate Mama."

She asked me, "What did you say?" I said, "Nothing."

I feel bad knowing I made her feel bad then!!! She was just looking out for me but I didn't know that then.

Don't worry, ngayon lang naman siguro yun... I think!

ghee said...

yeah,i agree.they should know how to hate so they could learn how to love.

im back,Jo!thanx for checkin me always.

JO said...

Hi Doctor,
Welcome to my blog! Your child has to let them know who is the boss around the house... ",)

Hi Toni,
As a kid, it is hard for us to understand our parents' reasoning behind their decision... but now as an adult, we do appreciate everything they've done. I just wish my kids will realize that when the time comes.

Hi Ghee,
Welcome back!!!

Francesca said...

children say that to parents doesnt mean they mean it that they hate us (parents) somtimes they copied it only from their friends in school.
When your child said that to you parent, ask, why he hate mommy(or daddy) and make a conversation what does it mean?.
discipline them while young, or else long afterwards it cant be done!
ay ! rhyme !
pero totot yan, base in my experience, tatlo anak ko 22,18,17 na but never speaks to me that they hate me.
kasi i asked them why, and they must have a good reason WHY !and they dont give ma an answer me why ! !

It shows,Mama nila tigasin ! lol

Diana Joy said...

Yep!!!! Totally!!!
God Bless!
Diana Joy

Anonymous said...

Doing the right thing can be....hard.

Anonymous said...

And that was me above. Forgot. Jo Kuuipo.

ethel said...

HI Jo, wazzup!
Passing by alng ako.
Have a great week jan.
Kisses sa mga kiddos!
God bless...

JO said...

Hi Francesca,
I know my son didn't really mean it, its just his way of expressing his anger and disappointment in me.

Hi Diane,
Welcome to my blog!

Hi Jo K,
Parenting is NEVER easy...

Hi Ethel,
Stay cool...

Diana Joy said...

Hey Jo!
I thought I'd drop by and say Hey:)
Thanks for dropping by!!
God Bless:)
Diana Joy

zingtrial said...

HI liked reading through your blog its a nice blog
Thanks for sharing
Wish you well

JO said...

Hi Diana and Zingtrial!

Thanks for stopping by... hope to see more of you here...

Tani said...

my son is ambivalent towards me. sometimes i'm good, sometimes i'm bad. so do i agree? i can't decide... ambivalence is hereditary?

JO said...

Hi Tani,
Well most kids are like that naman. We're good if they get a treat or a toy, and we're bad if they don't get what they want.

Raquel said...

Hi Jo, thank you, di ko naisip yan ah. Sabi ni hubby, nakakatulong din daw ang pag ba-blogging ko kase I can get some ideas from other people.

JO said...

Hi Raquel,
That is one of the reason why we blog di ba? to get ideas and free advice?

fennymun said...

I really like your posting, always contain practical tips. My son hasn't yet said so (though I think his heart has declared it for many times). Yes, it isn't easy to be firm and say "no".

JO said...

Hi Fenny,
Thanks! Yes, it is hard for us to say "no" but I hope and pray that he will understand it all when he is older and a parent himself.