Practical Tips #3

"Parents and leading experts in early childhood education have prepared these practical everyday tips, to help you be a more knowledgeable, better and happier parent."

Making a Negative Situation a Positive

  1. Tell your child what behaviors you'd like to see. Remember to accentuate the positive: "I like the way you cleaned your room after I asked you to."
  2. Avoid the "yeah, but" trap: "I like the way you made your bed, but you did not pick up your toys."
  3. Explain the consequences ahead. For example, before you leave for the restaurant, tell you child, "If you are going to scream and yell when we are in the restaurant, we will leave." Always follow through.
  4. Set fair and realistic consequences for unacceptable behaviour. Make the discipline fit the crime. For example, if your child keeps playing with the VCR, when you said not to touch, then explain to her why there will be no TV that day.
  5. Take a deep breath and count to 10. Don't discipline your child when you are angry.
  6. Forgive and forget - make sure your child knows you still love her.
  7. Mistakes are always an opportunity for learning.

SOURCE: TV Ontario's Get Ready to Learn

11 comments:

HiPnCooLMoMMa said...

that's really hard to do, especially if you're at the height of your anger, but i'm trying =)

iskoo said...

i will them in my mind, when i become a father i will apply these.

vernaloo said...

same here..well noted :)

JO said...

Hi Girlie, Iskoo and Verns,

I guess our wordings are very important... I just thought I'd post this just to remind myself too. It is very difficult to find and use the right words especially in the heat of anger.

fennymun said...

Hi Jo, thanks for sharing. It's more hard to do than to say. But yet, it helps a lot to keep on fine-tuning our motherhood.

Mich said...

nice post, jo. pero i know mahirap gawin to kaya wish us luck!;)

JO said...

Hi Fenny,
Motherhood is definitely the toughest job out there.

Hi Mich,
Yes, goodluck to all of us!

Heart of Rachel said...

Wonderful post. It's a great reminder for parents like me. I follow most of them but I have to admit, I sometimes lose my cool but at the end of the day, I always tell my son that I love him very much.

Thanks for sharing this Jo.

JO said...

Hi Rachel,
You're welcome! It's a good reminder to all of us!

Tani said...

It's a reminder to me. Especially since my babies are growing up fast.

JO said...

Hi Tani,
They sure do grow up very fast!