The ADHD Child's Bill Of Rights

This poem is a wake up call for me! I feel like a failure as a mother when it comes to my son. I need to change and I need to change now!

I feel like my son is talking to me through this poem and I chose not to listen to him. He would say a lot of these phrases to me and I ignore them. I need to spank myself for behaving like that!

I'm printing this poem and kept it close to my desk so I can read it over and over, again and again.

This poem is also posted at my other blog.


The ADHD Child's Bill Of Rights

"Help me to focus"
"Please teach me through my sense of "touch".
I need "hands on" and "body movement".
"I need to know what comes next"
Please give me a structured environment
where there is a dependable routine.
Give me an advanced warning if there will be changes.
"Wait for me, I'm still thinking"
Please allow me to go at my own pace.
If I rush, I get confused and upset.
"I'm stuck ! I can't do it !"
Please offer me options for problem-solving.
I need to know the detours when the road is blocked.
"Is it right? I need to know NOW!"
Please give me rich and immediate feedback on how I'm doing.
"I didn't forget, I didn't "hear" it in the first place!"
Please give me directions one step at a time and
ask me to say back what I think you said.
"I didn't know I wasn't in my seat!"
"Please remind me to STOP, THINK and ACT."
Am I almost done now?
Please give me short work periods with short-term goals.
Please don't say "I've already told you that."
Tell me again in different words.
Give me a signal. Draw me a symbol.
"I know, it's ALL wrong, isn't it?”
Please give me praise for partial success.
Reward me for self-improvement, not just for perfection.
"But why do I always get yelled at?"
Please catch me doing something right and
praise me for my specific positive behaviour.
Remind me (and yourself) about my good points,
when I'm having a bad day.
"I may be hard to live with, and have ADHD, but I still have
feelings and would have never chosen to behave like I do

~ Unknown author ~


CyberCelt said...

This is truth. I was at a conference and the man presenting was able to make us all feel what it was like to have ADHD. He started giving directions and then he would speed up and reverse his directions until everyone was frustrated and lost. Then he said, "This is what a person with ADHD goes through every day."

Some of the most talented individuals in the world have ADHD. If they can learn within our education system, they have a headstart on everyone else.

God be with you and your son.

fennymun said...

Hi Jo, just stop by to say hello. Yes, I'm back in a way... ;)

JO said...

hi Cybercelt,
Thanks! I should give more clear instruction from now on... and definitely NO multi-tasking for him or he won't be able to do a single thing. I wish I was in that conference!

Hi Fenny,
Welcome back! Hope to see you around.